Falling in Love in Berlin Question Mark

Thursday, June 19, 2014

Two days ago I had lunch with Hannah May, a lovely second-year student of my programme. She was talking about Groningen, a town in the Netherlands where she lives now and where I will live from October on. "So, if you live far away from the center, you never really go there... it's just like living in Potsdam, you never go to Berlin." Then she looked at me and corrected herself: "I mean, you do, but usually..."

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That's right. I go to Berlin really often and basically, when I leave my apartment, if I'm not going to classes or grocery shopping, the chances are that I'm going to Berlin. I just love love love that city so much, and I feel I haven't really gotten to know it. Maybe that's why it's good to know my time here is limited. When I lived in Belgrade, there were some things I'd never done because I thought there was time. The same happened to me in Finland. I guess third time's a charm, so I'm grasping as much of Berlin as I can.

Last time I told you how much I've fallen in love with it, and with Berliners as well. But speaking of falling in love with Berliners, I recently read an article that inspired the Exberliner team filming a video I want to share with you today. Just to introduce you to the downsides of living in (or near) beautiful Berlin! :)

To be quite honest, I haven't really tried dating anyone here, so I don't have any first-hand experience. But reading and watching this made me a bit nervous. I mean, it can't be that bad, can it? I hate generalizations of any kind, but if several people of different interests and backgrounds claim the same, could it really be the truth? I would hate that, because I feel Berlin could be my home. I feel like staying here - if staying in Europe. Ok, I know, several months ago I was crying over Finland, not to mention my heartbreak after leaving Belgrade; I'll probably feel something similar in the Netherlands, but right now Berlin seems like a place to be.

That's exactly what worried me when I finished reading the article. Does choosing Berlin also mean choosing it over love? Does falling in love with Berlin mean you've given up falling in love in Berlin?

I must admit that the idea sounds depressing. Add years of single life pre-Berlin, and it actually gets intimidating.

But on the other hand, isn't it like that pretty much everywhere? Or nowhere, depending on your attitude and willingness to small talk, be outgoing, talk to people? 

Even though I'm currently in a place where I'm not looking for anyone, I choose to believe so. I mean, it's impossible that one city is particularly worse for dating than some others, right?!

I'm happy that Berlin is actually quite single-friendly, so I'm just gonna continue roaming the cute streets and cafes of Kreuzberg and Prenzlauer Berg, finding cheap deals in second-hand shops, getting excited by flea markets... alone. Because I enjoy it. If somebody happens to cross my path, well, I'll have a company on the way. ;)

Oh, and here's something for you, wherever you are: clickclick




  1. AWWW i love how you included me in your blog post!! i feel honored :)

    1. Haha :) I told the truth and nothing but the truth :))

  2. Somehow, after few sentences, the voice of Carrie Bradshaw started resonating in my head. I had to start over, so she basically narrated your post for :)

    1. That's because Berlin is New York to this side of the pond...
      ...otherwise I don't know whether I should take that as a compliment or sit in the corner of my room and cry. :p

    2. You're seriously asking me that question? That's a huge compliment! :-*

    3. In that case, thank you! <3 It's just that I'm not that into her the way I was years before ;)


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